SometimesItIsBetterNottoTelltheTruth
Itismybeliefthat"honestyisthebestpolicy"inmostsituations.Ifwelietoothersforourownadvantage,itissuretohurtuseventually.Oncewebecomeknownfortellinglies,wewilllosethetrustofothers,andtrust,oncelost,isdifficulttorecover.However,Idobelievethattherearesituationsinwhichitissometimesbetternottotellthetruth.
Truthisahighideal,butsoiscompassion.Idon’tbelievethatitisrighttohurtpeopleunnecessarily,evenwithsomethingasnobleasthetruth.Insomesituationsthetruthisofnobenefittosomeoneandwillonlyhurthim.Forexample,ifamanbreaksupwithhisgirlfriendandshesaysterriblethingsabouthim,thereisnopointintellingtheman.Similarly,ifsomeonebuyssomethingandthenasksforyouropinion,thereisnoneedtotellhimthatyouthinkhewastedhismoney.Thetruthwouldonlyhavebeenhelpfulbeforethepurchase.Tosumup,oneshouldthinkbeforespeaking,evenwhenitmeansdecidingbetweenthetruthandalie.Onemustbalancetruthwithcompassion,especiallywhenitisamatterofpersonalopinion.Thetruthshouldbetoldasmuchaspossible,butIdon’tbelievethatthereisanyharmintellingawhiteliewhenthesituationcallsforit.
有时候不说实话比较好
我认为在大多数的情况下,"诚实为上策".如果我们为了自己的利益而向别人说谎,这样做最后一定会伤害到自己.一旦别人知道我们会说谎,就会对我们失去信任,而信任一旦失去就很难恢复了.不过,我真的相信在某些情况下不说实话比较好.
真实是种崇高的理想,但是同情也一样.我认为不必要地伤害别人是错误的,即使是为了像真实这种高贵的情操.在某些情况下,说实话对别人没有任何好处,反而只会伤害对方.例如,有个男的和女朋友分手了,如果这个女友说了一些他的坏话,那么告诉那个男的这件事根本就没什么意义.同样地,如果有人买了东西,问你有何看法时,你就没必要告诉他你认为他是在浪费钱,因为这样的实话只有在买东西之前有帮助.
总之,开口说话之前应该先思考,即使这就意味着必须决定要说实话还是要说谎.我们必须斟酌该说实话还是该同情对方,特别是在表达个人看法的时候.虽然应该尽可能多说实话,但是我认为,当情况需要时,说些善意的谎言并不会有什么害处.